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9 ,SAN ,DIEGO1 ,CALI=NIA4 ,! ,H\SE
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FAMILY--,DAVID BR+S 9 ! 9COME & ,!RESA
/AYS HOME )! *N4 ,& T'S ! WAY !Y BO?
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DESPITE H] FAMILY'S GRAVE MISGIV+S4 ,"H
IS :AT %E HAS 6SAY 9 ? LOV+ PORTRAIT (
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F\R WOND];L *N--?REE1 FIVE1 SEV51 & N9E4
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EA* EYE4
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,DIEGO1 WELL-EQUIPP$ )! SKILLS ( BL;S1
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LAU< TD :5 WE LOOK BACK AT T CRAZY &
ROMANTIC "T4
  ,"O (! M *ALL5G+ ASPECTS ( \R REL,N%IP
0 MY FAMILY'S PREJUDICE AB BL;S4 ,MY
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PRO#M ?AN ! ACTUAL LOSS ( EYESI<T4
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3T9U$ _! RESI/.E 6MY FIANCE4 ,:5 WE GOT
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WEEK4 ,I _H A GRT PAY+ JOB Z A M$ICAL
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CUT MY "W S*$ULE 9 HALF1 6TW5TY H\RS A
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FAMILY4
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RESPONSIBILITIES AT HOME4
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S*OOL 0WAK+ !M UP1 FE$+ !M BR1KFA/1 &
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LUN*ES1 HELP ! *N DRESS1 & TAKE !M
6S*OOL4
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GETT+ ! KIDS "? _! HOME"W4 ,:ILE ,I AM
PREP>+ D9N]1 HE UNLOADS ! DI%WA%] & SETS
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PUT !M AWAY4
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AN UNDUE H>D%IP ON ! FAMILY4 ,= EXAMPLE1
AT HOME HE HAS ! *OICE ( US+ 8 CANE OR
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USES BO? AT HOME & AT "W4 ,MY HUSB&
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,HE RE,Y APPRECIATES HAV+ ! ABIL;Y 6R1D
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9 ! PUBLIC LIBR>Y 9 PR9T4 ,? ALL[S MY
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6*UR* EA* WEEK4
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CASSETTE RECORD+S HE MANAGES 6R1D A
WEEKLY NEWSPAP]1 ?REE MON?LY MAGAZ9ES1
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